I can’t start eating well now because I have a holiday coming up. Can’t start next week because it’s my mother’s sister’s aunt’s birthday. The week after my college friends are coming to town. It’s my son’s birthday, Communion, graduation, Grandma turns 100 and I have 72 birthday parties. Next year sounds good. The excuses can be endless. So for 21 meals in a week, not including snacks, you will stress about ONE. You will waste the time eating well prior to that, all because of that ONE meal in your future. You will wait. Then you can start. What if you just started eating smart now, then enjoyed your holiday meal? Call me crazy, but that’s a thought.
The Food Fraidy Cat:
You’re worried about the day. You really are in love with the food that will be there. You can’t stop thinking about how good it is and are actually afraid of the food. Will it open the flood gates? Your mother makes everything the old fashion, Italian style way. You LOVE food and are trying to do well, but you know the choices will run the spectrum and you know you have no control! Relax. It’s just food. Why do we get so obsessed with it? When we obsess and it’s all we think about, we stress over it and end up eating everything in sight. We put so much emphasis on trying not to think about it that it’s all we think about. Relax. If it’s that good then take small pieces of what you love and eat it. Enjoy your meal. Eat with intention, not guilt. Then back on track when the meal is done. Stay in the moment, stay in today and do well today. If you stress about it you will hold on to weight. Stress increases cortisol. Cortisol holds on to belly fat. Relax.
If you knew what I ate you would think I should be so thin. I eat all clean, healthy foods. I want to lose 10 pounds. I have extra weight on. I love to pick. I graze all day on food. I see it, I pop it in my mouth. I just heard two totally different things. We convince ourselves that we eat well, but block out the other detrimental habits like they don’t exist. Time to wake up to what you already know and change the action. Becoming aware of your own head game, to pretend like you don’t know, will help to get you out of the lost place. Ask someone to say a word, make it up, make it funny so you don’t get mad at them and when they see you, let them say it. “Furphy” (a portable water container, who knew). Live alone? Have a text buddy that has your back.
You are going to TRY to do better. Now that your friend is coming to the gym, MAYBE you will come to the gym. I THINK I can cut back on sugar. You SORT OF want it, but if you say the words more definitively, then you actually do it. Change your language. Don’t fear committing to you! I am going to do better. I am going to the gym. I will cut back on sugar. Our thoughts become our words become our actions. If your thoughts are wishy washy then your actions will be too. Say it. Mean it. Do it!
Yes there is a holiday coming for many of you/us. A religious one in fact! Relax in to the beautiful day. Enjoy the time with family. Remember why we celebrate. If we waited for every holiday, party and celebration to come and go, we’ll always struggle. If we get to anxious, we will hold on to weight. If we talk ourselves into a place where we don’t see our pickings, we won’t know to stop. It’s a celebration. Enjoy the meal. It doesn’t have to become a feast if you don’t let it and if you do, then poop it out on Monday and move on! The key is to relax. If you know you will eat the whole bag of jelly beans once you start, then don’t start. Don’t open the gate. Plan ahead and work toward a celebration by eating well leading up to that day. Know what you will eat. Navigate through the good stuff and take small portions of the fun food on the side. Save them for after you have eaten well and you will eat less. Don’t dive into the lasagna first. Save it for after the turkey and veggies. Let your stomach fill up with what will serve it well and then taste the rest. You can do it. Then go for a nice long walk after dinner.
Your Iron Beauty Coach,