Seriously. The world is a judgmental place for sure. I try my absolute best not to judge. I mean that. I actually try to live my life without judging others. Yet, I am judged over and over. I have heard all too much how I am judged, but when you are in the public eye all the time you are bound to have people talk about you. It is what it is. The Four Agreements, which I highly recommend to EVERYONE, tells you not to take it personally. Easier said than done, but a definite work in progress. And be impeccable with your word. Think about that. Be impeccable with your word means really caring about what comes out of your mouth especially when it comes to talking about others!
I hate the word hate. When my kids were little they were not allowed to use the word hate. It was a curse word to me. I hate this, I hate that, and I would say you are too young to hate anything, hate is a bad word and how can you possibly know anyway, you are too young to have that negativity in you!
So let’s think about this. Let’s look at the world, even if for one day, as if everyone you meet has a real life issue that they are dealing with, because that is actually real. Life on earth is life on earth. We are human and have to experience so many things. Yet we look at each other as if they have it going on because . . . they can do that because. . . they have it easy because. . . They are just dealing with it differently. Everyone has something. Most people won’t share their something because they don’t want people to know their life isn’t perfect or it’s too hard or it’s just too personal. All valid. I just think we would look at the world differently if we actually acknowledged that everyone we encounter has something going on, because they do. We have aging parents, parents who are gone too early, kids we are trying to raise, finances on the brink, relationship struggles, illness, the list is huge. And the doors to their home are closed and you do not know what is going on behind those doors. Most are just too scared to share because they feel alone, they fear they will be judged or that there problem is unique. Nothing is unique. We are never alone. You are not the first one to have this experience. You have so many like you. Compassion goes a long way. Imagine if we replaced judgement with compassion. Wow, now that’s a world for me!
Exercise: Tomorrow. Let’s assume every single solitary person you encounter has a major life issue. And that their issues are worse than yours. What will you do when they yell at you? Bite your head off or call you a name? Take a deep breath and think, they are actually a beautiful person. They are not their actions, but a result of their pain. What would a painless life look like? Just like we don’t know what superheros would be like, because they are not real, neither is a pain free life. We can all get better at embracing more people because it is often just a cover up for so much going on. We must have compassion. We can turn it around! As a coach, I know what’s real. Behind closed doors. That’s what’s real. xoxoxoxo Sending hugs.
NO JUDGEMENT HERE. If you have an issue you would like to discuss please write me at Kathi@myironbeauty.com. I am a vault.
See you in great shape,
Your loving stalker and coach